Have you found yourself obsessively checking the news feeds on your phone, on the television, and on other sources on the internet lately? Also, with all this news coming your way are you able to remain calm during the COVID-19, Black Lives Matter, and a contentious election year? Additionally, have you noticed that each time you view a new scary headline, a current of adrenaline shoots through you?
“The virus is coming back…unemployment is high…wildfires burned down more homes…schools are closed…mask help…masks don’t help…anyone who would vote for__________ is an &#@!… Black Lives Matter…All Lives Matter!”
If you’re worried, it’s understandable because there is a lot of uncertainty in the world right now. Also, there’s panic in the air and lots of anxious people, even some that are in full freak-out mode.
Fear of COVID-19, political outcomes and social unrest is contagious and spreads from person to person just like a virus.
Fear, panic, and righteous anger are contagious, just like a virus. Additionally, prolonged anxiety and panic lower our immune system’s response. They also shut down the rational part of your brain, causing you to make decisions that are often not in your best interest. Consequently, fear spreads and inevitably makes the situation, no matter what it is, worse.
In contrast, the presence of a centered, calm, rational person also spreads from person to person. As a result, it inevitably makes the situation better, no matter how bad it is.
Therefore, remaining calm during a crisis is often the greatest gift you can give to yourself, your family, and the community.
So, here’s the big question: Are you spreading fear/panic/anger or calm about COVID-19 and everything else?
Don’t get me wrong, being afraid when there is a real danger is essential because it can save our lives. However, there is a difference in being appropriately afraid and being stuck in a state of panic. It’s different because panic feeds on itself and causes us to see threats that don’t exist.
“I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.” – Mark Twain
Ideally, when new information about our environment shows up, we will have the sense to know when to be afraid, when to be wary and when to feel safe. However, many things can distort or confuse us and cause us to misjudge situations.
Your built-in negativity bias can make you see dangers from COVID-19 and other issues in the news that doesn’t exist.  Margaret Jaworski. The Negativity Bias: Why the Bad Stuff Sticks. PSYCOM.com [website] February 19, 2020, https://www.psycom.net/negativity-bias (accessed March 24, 2020)
An excellent example of something that distorts our perception is what scientists call our negativity bias. What that means is that we are genetically programmed to notice what’s wrong in our environment before we see what is right. Therefore, for most of our existence, this trait has kept us alive by helping us see and avoid dangers that minimized injury and death. However, when we mix this ancient automatic survival strategy with a modern world overloaded by negative messages, that is when the trouble starts.
So, in the modern world, this preference for negative messages becomes a problem because our brain can’t tell the difference between a real threat and one that we see on the news 5000 miles away. Therefore, instead of running into a few threats a day as our ancestors did, we are now running into hundreds every day. That is to say, it would be like our ancestors bumping into a tiger every few minutes all day long.
Our resilience in the face of negative messages (negative stress like news about COVID-19, Black LIves Matter or the election) is determined by three factors.  Sonja Lyubomirsky, Rene Dickerhoof, Julia K. Boehm, and Kennon M. Sheldon. Becoming Happier Takes Both a Will and a Proper Way: An Experimental Longitudinal Intervention to Boost Well-Being. National Library of Medicine – National Institutes of Health [website]. March 31, 2015, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4380267/ (accessed March 24, 2020)
- Your genetic happiness default – 50% of your stress resilience is factory installed, meaning that you are born with a tendency towards a particular way of processing stress. For people with a family history of depression, for example, the preset is very low. These people will have to work extra hard to stay positive during times of high stress.
- Your environment – 10% of your stress resilience depends on your external environment. This includes your level of education, marital status, etc. 10% may seem a low number to most of us. That is because we tend to think that external forces have a more significant influence on our well-being than they actually do.
- Your choices, habits, and attitudes – 40% of your stress resilience comes from your mental habits and attitudes. Therefore, it is here that you can influence how your body and mind react to stress. Also, there is evidence that with a prolonged effort in this realm, you can improve your genetic happiness default setting.
Given what I just said, the following breakdown of how much positive influences are necessary to stay calm during a crisis will vary significantly from person to person. Additionally, I believe what follows represents a useful model for understanding what is necessary to create a calmer, more self-regulated self during times of crisis.
To illustrate how the modern bombardment of negative messages can affect our health, I’ll show you how the numbers add up.  Roy F. Baumeister, Ellen Bratslavsky, Catrin Finkenauer, Kathleen D. Vohs. Bad Is Stronger Than Good. Review of General Psychology Vol. 5. No. 4. 323-37, 2001. http://www.seekingbalance.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/BadStrongerThanGood.pdf (accessed March 24, 2020)
- For every negative message you take in, you need 8 positive messages to help you feel neutral about your safety.
- If you want to feel safe and happy, you need around 30 positive messages for every negative message.
OK, so think about how many negative or upsetting messages you have taken in today so far? When the average American spends 60 minutes taking in the news in one form or another, that means the numbers look something like this:
First, let’s assume that there is only one negative message per minute from the news. I think this number is generously small on my part, but it’s a round number, so I’m sticking to it. Therefore, to counteract 60 minutes of negative news, the average American needs 480 positive experiences to feel OK and a total of 1800 to feel safe and happy.
If each positive experience took one minute each, then to counteract the adverse effects of one hour of news, you’d need 8 hours of positive messages to feel just OK. Therefore, If you want to feel safe and happy, you would need 30 hours of positive messages.
Certainly,it is no wonder that stress-related illnesses like depression and hypertension are on the rise!
Most people in the modern world are in debt when it comes to positive, life-affirming messages.
Now, on top of all this, why don’t we add in a worldwide pandemic, riots/deaths and the most contentious political environment in memory. This would typically add more than double the number of negative messages that everyone takes in every day.
I think by now, you can see that when the ratio of positive messages to negative messages gets this out of balance, we feel like the sky is falling. As a result of this imbalance, people start acting irrational and see dangers that don’t exist. This is what causes people to buy a 5-year supply of toilet paper and being unable to engage in open debate about politics or solutions for racial inequity.
The remedy to your fear of COVID-19, the presidential election, and social unrest is to form better habits around what you think about and the quality of the information that you take in.
As you can see from what I’ve outlined above, you would need to focus on what’s going right all the time. This would include being diligent about seeing what is right in your life and the world in general. Because the science clearly shows that people who are resilient in stressful situations continuously focus on what is right, this is what we all must strive for. Also, keep in mind that I’m not asking you to ignore what’s going wrong. Instead, I’m suggesting that you be aware of current facts about the COVID-19 and other crises just don’t let it dominate your mind.
“We need to learn to distinguish emotions like anger and attachment that are destructive from positive ones like compassion that are a source of happiness.” -Dalai Lama
How do I stay informed about COVID-19 and other news without it causing me more anxiety and stress?
My first suggestion for reducing your anxiety about Covid-19 and other upsetting news is to take control of all the ways that you receive negative or upsetting information. I’m talking about both the quality and the number of times a day that you are exposed to news. Getting your news from a quality source is essential because misinformation breeds fear and confusion.
Step 1 – Limiting your exposure to news about the COVID-19, Black Lives Matter, wildfires, and politics.
- Never watch the news, read it instead. The images and tone of voice of an announcer will be more upsetting than reading and stick longer in your unconscious. In contrast, reading from a quality source where the focus is on the facts will help you make better decisions rather than give you a shot of adrenaline.
- Put a limit on the number of times a day you check the news. Typically, I read the news once a week. During this crisis, I am reviewing the news twice a week for 10 – 30 minutes.
- Delete all news related apps, including Facebook, from your phone and computer or, at the very least, turn off automatic notifications. This way, you will only be exposed to the news when you choose to be.
- Never check the news before you got to bed.
- Only check the news from reputable news sources
- Consider skipping the news agencies altogether and gather the facts yourself from more data-driven sources.
Here are some sources of information about COVID-19 that I believe are trustworthy, unhyped, and fact-driven.
Finding sources for politics and issues of racial justice can be tricky because news sources and social media don’t aim at delivering a balanced fact-driven view. Rather, they intentionally focus on what is most upsetting and what their target audience wants to hear. The consequence of this bias delivery of information is people becoming more black and white in their thinking. Instead of seeing the world full of complex issues, everyone is either a “Good Person”(someone who shares our views) or “Bad Person” (someone who doesn’t share our opinions) Catagory. Change is needed, but black and white thinking and other destructive moral attitudes on both sides of the political spectrum weaken our standards of open debate and tolerance of differences in favor of conforming to a group ideology. Therefore, I’m offering the following resources as an aid in restoring a balanced view of our current racial justice challenges.
- A Letter on Justice and Open Debate, Harper’s, Magazine
- Pew Research Center
- The Intellectual Dark Web
- Sam Harris’s Waking Up Podcast – #207 – Can We Pull Back From The Brink?, #217 – The New Religion of Anti-Racism
Alternatively, you could spend time on these news sites that are dedicated to focusing only on positive news.
- Happy News
- 100 Good News Stories from Around the World |Readers Digest
- Sunny Skyz
Step 2 – Engage in behaviors during the COVID – 19 and other crisis that reinforces feelings of calm and safety, and that strengthen rational decision making.
Focus on what you can control instead of what you can’t control
- Wash your hands
- Don’t touch your face
- Reduce your exposure to upsetting information
- Improve your life is some way during the crisis
- Look for the opportunities that this new challenge brings. Often in crisis situations, these opportunities will be in the form of a new spiritual perspective on what is most important in your life.
Exercise – Although I will list practices that are scientifically proven to help regulate stress, any form of movement that you find relaxing and pleasurable will help. The positive effect of these activities will be significantly increased if you do them in nature. If you are restricted from going outside or traveling to nature, then your back yard or having a view or picture of nature will do the trick. Also, be careful not to over-exercise. Too much exercise can increase your stress level by wearing you down rather than acting as a support. Aim at 65% of your capacity rather than trying to push your limits. If you have physical limitations moving within your constraints while imagining that you are doing the full movement will have the same benefits to your health. Here are some examples of exercise that tone the body and help reduce the negative effects of stress:
- Yoga Nidra
- Mindful Yoga
- Group sports with your family or roommates
Practice Gratitude – Advances in neuroscience have proven the powerful effects of focusing on what we are grateful for. The key is that this focus becomes a habit that is practiced regularly. If your automatic response is to look for what is right in every situation, your chance of thriving during times of stress goes up. The How of Happiness, by Sonja Lyubomirsky and the Science of Well Being, an online course from Yale are two great resources on how to use gratitude to improve the quality of your life
Meditate – Modern neuroscience has shown that mindfulness practices can significantly improve stress resilience and the levels of happiness in people who practice regularly. Here are some excellent resources for quality online meditation instruction:
- The 10 % Happier App – I have used this app for years because of the exceptionally high-quality of the instructors. One of my favorite classes is on how to handle difficult emotions by Oren Sofer. Also, this app is now offering a free 6-month subscription for all health care workers. Healthcare workers can simply email them at [email protected], and they will be sent instructions on how to get access.
- Darma Seed – This is a free resource for quality meditations and classes lead by highly qualified teachers. Some of my favorites are Oren Sofer, Jeff Warren, Jack Kornfield, Joseph Goldstein, and Alexus Santos. Please keep in mind that meditation, just like physical exercise, only works if you do it regularly. Also, just like exercise, the positive effects will fade if you stop practicing.
- CALM App – The developers of this app are offering free meditations for sleep, stress reduction, calming exercise videos, and much more.
- Waking up App – Waking Up is a guide to understanding the mind, for the purpose of living a more balanced and fulfilling life. If you can’t afford to pay for this app you can get free access by contacting the support team.
Pray – People who pray and believe in a higher power tend to do better in times of extreme stress. The act of admitting your vulnerability and lack of control to a higher power can engender feelings of connectedness, humility, and gratitude. This shift in attitude helps with stress regulation and better decision making.
Being of service – Being of service to other people in times of need is an excellent way to take to focus off your own troubles and make you feel like you can make a difference in times of high stress. If you’re stuck at home and can’t work consider offering something for free for other people online. You could show people how to bake a cake, draw a picture or improve their memory.
Improve your environment – If you’re stuck at home, optimizing your home environment is a great way to boost our feeling of agency. You will see this improvement every day, and it will remind you that you can make a difference. You have control over something! Here are some examples of home projects that can boost our mood.
- Sort and organize areas of your home that you have to deal with every day. For example, your clothes closet or the kitchen. Get rid of anything you don’t need and organize the remaining items, so they are easy to use and support whatever activity you most need to do in that space.
- Clean your house until it shines – What was the last time our home was immaculate? I’m talking about the level of clean where you won’t be embarrassed if someone showed up unannounced to socialize. Why not doing this same cleaning job for yourself as a loving gift during this challenging time?
- Weed the garden and plant something beautiful. Not only will you be cheered up by a more beautiful garden, but the act of working physically and putting your hands in the earth can be profoundly grounding.
Stay socially connected over Zoom or Skype – Social bonding during times of crisis is one of the most potent ways to boost your mood and improve your immune function. Since connecting in person can cause COVID-19 to spread, I suggest connecting with friends or loved ones through apps that allow you to see their faces as well as hearing their voices. Modern neuroscience has shown that this combination is more effective at engendering feelings of connection and safety than texts or emails.  Steven Porges. How to counter the effects of social distancing. Relational Implicit & Somatic Psychotherapy YouTube Channel, March 17, 2020. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FGTHm6R4pc&feature=youtu.be (accessed March 24, 2020)
Play – Many of us don’t realize that play is a potent neuro exercise. It is essential for our health and happiness. For example, children who are deprived of play in the first 10 years of their lives have a high probability of committing violent crimes as adults. In contrast, play can act as a powerful antidote to daily stress as well as in a crisis. Play allows us to get into that zone were time changes, and nothing exists beyond what we are doing at the moment. It’s like a trance, and when we snap out of it, we can’t believe the hours have gone by. Here are some examples of healthy forms of play including some links to free online resources:
- Writing or journaling
- Drawing and painting
- Brain games
- Card games
- Laughter yoga
- Group sports – you can play safely in your back yard with your housemates.
Study and apply spiritual/philosophical principles – Many philosophical approaches help during stressful times. However, my favorites are Buddhism and Stoicism. For example, both of these systems teach that it is more helpful to focus on what you can control instead of what you can’t control. Also, they both encourage viewing humanity with a forgiving heart which includes forgiving yourself for all your perceived failures and shortcomings. If you want to learn more about Stoic philosophy, I recommend How to be a Stoic, by Massimo Pigliucci. For practical advice on how to apply Buddhist principles to your life, I recommend The Art of Living, by Thich Nhat Hanh.
I’m already overwhelmed by Covid-19 and all the other negative news, how I can implement these changes?
It’s not enough to know that what you are doing or not doing can be harmful to your health. What matters most is knowing how to change your habits sustainably.
A recent study tracked heart patients whose doctors told them they will die if they don’t change their lifestyle. The result was that only one in seven followed through successfully. Desire and motivation aren’t enough: even when it’s a matter of life or death. To many, the ability to change remains elusive. Luckily, modern neuroscience gives us a clearer picture of what it takes to change our habits successfully.
I’ve read many books on habit change. My favorite so far is Atomic Habits by James Clear. What makes this book better than all the others? The up-to-date neuroscience and the time the author took to organize the material. Also, it is easy to learn and implement. Here’s a summary of the book’s essential habit change principles to get you started.
“The problem isn’t will power or intelligence. The problem is your habit change system.”
Your struggle with managing your stress during Covid-19 and other stressors of 2020 isn’t a defect of character.
If you’re struggling to form healthy habits and break negative ones, the problem isn’t you. The problem is your systems. Negative habits repeat themselves, not because you have a lack of desire, will power or discipline. Instead, you are stuck because you have the wrong system for change. You think that you rise to the level of your goals. In actuality, your outcomes are determined by the quality of your systems. Therefore, the way to succeed in making good habits is by following the four laws of habit change:
- Make it obvious
- Make it attractive
- Make it easy
- Make it satisfying.
The way to break bad habits is to practice the reverse of the four laws:
- Make it invisible
- Make it unattractive
- Make it difficult
- Make it unsatisfying
Also, goal setting works best if we focus on who we want to become rather than what we want to obtain.
- Decide the qualities of the person you want to become.
- Prove it to yourself with small wins.
For example, if you want to reduce your exposure to social media. First, figure out what qualities are present in people who aren’t hooked on social media. In this case, your goal would be something like, “I’m a person who values deep learning above mindless distraction.” rather than “I will read books instead of watching social media.”
Start “stupid small” with your goals to increase your chance of success.
To reinforce a healthy habit, you must start small and build up gradually. For example, if you want to be better at putting first things first, start by doing this behavior five minutes a day rather than committing to an hour or more. This approach might feel ridiculous, but it is proven to increase your likelihood of success.
James Clear points out that it is essential to prove that you are serious about developing a new personality trait by doing it daily. Additionally, rather than beating yourself up for the last 3-hour YouTube binge, your feeling of success comes from doing the five-minutes of deep learning that you promised you would do that day. Before long, you will be practicing your deep learning trait far beyond your five-minute goal. So, rather than exerting willpower to force yourself not to spend all your free time on social media, your improvement becomes an organic consequence of your new trait of being a consistent person about deep learning. Hence, you will become less distracted and more likely to sustain these unique traits in the long run.
Ok, but how can I create these new positive habits when I’m already stressed about Covid-19 and other current events?
Now that I’ve shown you the highlights of how habit change works, let’s look at how the four laws of successful habit formation can help reduce your stress. I’ll be using an example of forming the new habit of deep learning to replace distracting social media scrolling. Here are the four laws of habit building:
- Make it Obvious – Set up a time a place for your new habit. For example, if you want to be more successful at deep learning, you would set up a time and place for your new routine that is very specific. The implementation intention formula is as follows: I will read without distraction [BEHAVIOR], for 5 minutes at 7 AM [TIME], in my easy chair in front of the fireplace [Place].
- Make it Attractive – It is essential to help make the habit feel vital or exciting, so set it up so you are attracted to it. It is critical to be creative with this process. For example, if your goal is to get off social media and replace it with deep learning, consider choosing a fun subject. Rather than starting with an in-depth study of Dante’s Inferno, focus on something more accessible like The Hobbit. This approach might seem superficial; however, it will make it much easier for you to get to the habit. To key is finding something that makes it easy to establish the pattern as an integrated part of your life. After you’ve got the habit pattern in place, it will be easier to increase the complexity. It is a way to trick yourself into the new behavior.
- Make it Easy – Another way to say this is to make the habit as convenient as possible. For a new deep learning routine, you could layout a book next to your favorite chair the night before, set up an attractive lamp for good reading light, and combined the in-depth study with another already established routine like getting your morning coffee. Keep in mind that it is easier to form a new habit in a new environment. Our current environment is full of habit triggers that are supporting the status quo. Therefore, rearranging your home to reinforce your new goal is a powerful way to ensure your success.
- Make it Satisfying – We humans are not wired for delayed gratification. We need small wins at the moment to feel motivated to continue a behavior. Therefore, it is essential to trick your brain into liking little habits that lead to big wins. An excellent example of this is toothpaste, which uses the foaming action and the minty taste to give you a pleasant experience every time you use it. Neither of these traits has anything to do with getting your teeth cleaner; instead, they are there to make you want to do the behavior again. You would need to find something to include in the deep learning that would give you an instant hit of pleasure. Practicing deep learning with your best friend or in a beautiful natural environment are examples of things that could spark a feeling of satisfaction that could help with motivation.
Yes, but what about my negative habits around constantly checking the news about COVID-19 and other negative media stories? How do I stop?
At the same time, you support your new habit of deep learning; it is essential to set up your life to work against negative habits like distracted time on social media. If you want to let go of a pattern that no longer serves you like obsessively checking the news, reverse the recommendations on building a healthy habit. Here are the four laws of habit braking:
- Make it invisible – Essentially, this means reducing your exposure to things that trigger the behavior you want to avoid. For example, if you want to reduce social media exposure, remove as many reminders of social media as possible from your devices. To start, you can remove all social media apps from your phone. If you want to look at your feed, you’ll have to log in to a browser. If you can’t access your account without an app, then turn off all reminders and consider positioning the app somewhere that will take multiple swipes to access.
- Make it unattractive – Reorienting our attitudes towards a habit will make it less attractive. If you frame your avoidance of social media as something like, “My time and focus are valuable, and I spend it on things that matter.” rather than “I’m trying to give up social media.” You will have a better chance of succeeding.
- Make it difficult – If you had to climb a mountain, swim a river, and fight five heavily armed warriors to open your Instagram account, you would most likely be less interested in checking it than you are right now. Therefore, if you are trying to avoid a behavior, do everything in your power to make it hard to do. Adding even one extra layer of difficulty can make a big difference. As I mentioned above, under the first law, make it invisible, if you take all the social media apps off your phone, you won’t see them. Additionally, it will take extra effort to access them. The harder it is to access, the fewer times you will be online.
- Make it unsatisfying – Those of you who are old enough will remember an image of a boy kept after school for “bad” behavior condemned to write one hundred times on the caulk board, “I will not dip the girls’ ponytails in the ink well.” Like the schoolteachers of old, you need to find something to make your undesirable behavior unsatisfying. A powerful tool to make unwanted behavior less satisfying is to find an accountability partner or group. We want approval from other people; therefore, having someone to report back to is a powerful motivator. The uneasy feeling, we get when we realize that we have to report our behavior to someone else is a great way to make behaviors unsatisfying.
What do I do if my fear of COVID-19 and other issues has gotten worse, and nothing is helping me calm down?
If you or someone you love is having trouble coping with the stress of our current health crisis, professional help may be needed. Take a look at the symptoms list below and see if they apply to you or anyone you know.
- Bad dreams or nightmares
- Having trouble falling or staying asleep
- Seeing yourself, others, or the world in a more negative way (for example” I can’t trust people,” “I’m a weak person”)
- Intense negative feelings like fear, horror, anger, guilt or shame
- Losing interest or not participating in activities you used to do
- Feeling distant or cut off from others.
- Having difficulty experiencing positive feelings
- Acting more irritable or aggressive with others
- Taking more risks or doing things that might cause you or others harm (for example, driving recklessly, taking drugs, having unprotected sex)
- Being overly alert or on-guard (for example, checking to see who is around you, being uncomfortable with your back to a door)
- Being jumpy or more easily startled (for example when someone walks up behind you)
- Having trouble concentrating
If you answered strong yes to more than half of the questions on this list, you may be suffering from stress overload. When this happens, you will not be able to relax, rest, or think clearly. Also, the suggestions I’ve made above may not help you feel any better. If this is the case I suggest you take this self-assessment quiz.
If you score between 33 or above on this quiz, I advise you to seek help from a health care professional who is “Trauma-Informed.” What this means is that the health care professional is up to date with modern neuroscience on how to effectively help people who are stuck in an unhealthy stress loop. This is important because many traditional methods of talk therapy and drugs are not effective in helping people stuck in states of overwhelm. In fact, in some cases, talking about what is upsetting can make your condition worse.
If you feel that you are in trouble and could be a danger to yourself or others please seek immediate help. Here are two free resources for people who are in an emotional crisis.
- Crisis Text Line – https://www.crisistextline.org/
- National Suicide Prevention Hotline – https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
If you are constantly flooded with negative thoughts about the COVID-19 and other crisis and you can’t calm down you may need the help of a therapist.
If you want to find a trauma-informed therapist, I recommend looking for professionals with an educational background that includes one or more of these training/certifications.
- Somatic Experiencing
- Sensory Motor Psychotherapy
- The Body Keeps The Score
- The Treating Traumas Master Series
- The Rhythm of Regulation
- The Safe and Sound Protocol
I hope that this article will help you navigate the uncertain times we are currently experiencing. It is my belief that we can all make a difference in every crisis if we learn how to remain calm and rational. We all have the power to spread hope and calm rather than fear. All that is needed is for each of us to form good habits. These habits help keep our negativity bias at bay and make us healthfully proactive during times of heightened stress.
If you would like to know more about solutions for weathering tough times please send me a request through email, social media, or as a comment after one of my articles.
|(Back to text)1||Margaret Jaworski. The Negativity Bias: Why the Bad Stuff Sticks. PSYCOM.com [website] February 19, 2020, https://www.psycom.net/negativity-bias (accessed March 24, 2020)|
|(Back to text)2||Sonja Lyubomirsky, Rene Dickerhoof, Julia K. Boehm, and Kennon M. Sheldon. Becoming Happier Takes Both a Will and a Proper Way: An Experimental Longitudinal Intervention to Boost Well-Being. National Library of Medicine – National Institutes of Health [website]. March 31, 2015, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4380267/ (accessed March 24, 2020)|
|(Back to text)3||Roy F. Baumeister, Ellen Bratslavsky, Catrin Finkenauer, Kathleen D. Vohs. Bad Is Stronger Than Good. Review of General Psychology Vol. 5. No. 4. 323-37, 2001. http://www.seekingbalance.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2016/06/BadStrongerThanGood.pdf (accessed March 24, 2020)|
|(Back to text)4||Steven Porges. How to counter the effects of social distancing. Relational Implicit & Somatic Psychotherapy YouTube Channel, March 17, 2020. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FGTHm6R4pc&feature=youtu.be (accessed March 24, 2020)|
Thank you Michael for this. Great help to those in need. Thank you for all you do to serve others and help us all to be and live in right attitude, expansive consciousness, and unconditional love. Many blessings, maria
Love it. Well written and researched. Mike you are the best. I will be forwarding this and look forward to more from you.
Great article Michael!
I’ll share it and keep on file.
And Thank you. I’m feeling the pinch right now, being a group Yoga practicer, socializer, an exerciser, an outdoors girl as well as a “sharing is caring“ person As a health and wellness coach. I seem to be stuck doing any of the above for myself or others! Even tho I love my home, it is making me crazy being isolated as long as I have. (I had 3 rounds of illnesses since last December, so really feel I was already quarantined since China’s outbreak!😝). 4 months of this for me has been tough.
How’s your situation? Wonder about all of u with small business’s and individual clients.
It’s time to get real and practice what I know and have learned these past years. A mindfulness practice is key. Thanks again for your personal reminder this morning!🙏👏🏻❤️ May you be safe and healthy and weather this storm with grace and ease.
Thank you for this. Some very useful information as well as reminders of stuff we already know. Continue to be a light as will I.
Way cool! Some extremely valid points! I appreciate you writing this article plus the rest of the
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I’m glad you found the article helpful!
Awesome article Michael! Full of great information, links + advice. I’ll definitely hang onto this…; )